let's open another thread in the gdiddy self help course!

so here i am, lying with my real life girlfriend (i'm really single, but for this scenario i have a young blonde who uses me for money ) who's about as vanilla as they come when it comes to bedroom fun time. now that gets me to thinking: there are so many girls on flirt that do all kinds of kinky stuff... how do i get my girl to do that?!!

at some point everyone has done nothing, right? at some point you had to have a "first time" for everything (i.e. sex, anal, bondage, squirting, role play, blow job, etc.)! somehow, someway something or someone got you to try stepping out of your comfort zone and try something taboo.

so what i wanted to use this thread for was to have the models on here talk about their first time doing a new sexual act. and secondly, any advice you have for the guys (or girls) to get their partner to try something new! what was it like? did it hurt? what made you try it again? had you always wanted to? did you do it with a toy first?

it would be very cool if we could get different types of stuff on here and lots of help for members to turn their vanilla sex life into a nice banana split! i know (for example) kimee is a squirter, scarlett west is into gagging blow jobs and saphira is into... well... what isn't she into?! any ladies that have a specialty, your input would be greatly appreciated!

members if you have a specific example feel free to post it and we'll do our best to get your sex life rocking again!! thanks in advance to everyone who helps us out!! Quote

i'll start... so i've been wanting to get my girl to do anal. how do i bring it up or ask her? Quote

haha I like this one, personally I have allways been open to try anything sexually I never was to excited to try anal sex though and my x boyfriend absolutly loved it and would tell me how amazing my ass is and how it would make him extreamly happy so i let him do anal and I loved it and after that he would fuck my ass like crazy haha. I have allso been peed on first time was a year ago me and him did it cuz he allways had a fantasy about it so i decided to let him act it out cuz alot of the times people have fantasy's cuz they have watched it on porn and all that and when they actually do it in real life they end up hateing it. But of coures me and him loved it, I guess where both lil sick freaks haha but I am persoanlly into being dominated and there is nothing more dominateing then haveing him pee on my face..you should try it out sometime lol

Josie <3 Quote

oh p.s he got me to do all that stuff cuz he made me feel very confident in myself and that he trully only wanted to do these things with me cuz he loved me so much ^_^ and thought i was so hot..i loved that about him Quote

and josie starting us off in style! she doesn't mess around, huh? going for the home run swing on the first pitch!! thanks for sharing who's up next? Quote

Start with compliments

Use something SMALL and take time
Lots of lube

Get her drunk

Let her ben you over and use Shaq Attack Strap-on on you 1st

Some people like Vanilla Quote

also...remember...yes alot of girls do things in front of their cam....which is alot easier than real life.....

i use to strip for strangers..and got off from being on stage...but then at home for boyfriend...alot harder.


and yessssss, some people do like vanilla....is all about comfort...and trust.....

i have tried anal in real life. and ended up loving it...i will do a little on cam now...but havent with a man since.

kisses,

Chanelle xoxoxo Quote

My first anal was when I was 18. When I was in nursing school all the girls where talking about anal; who liked it who didn't that sort of thing. There was this lady who was like in her 30's and she was talking about how awesome it was and it was the best feeling so I went home and recommended it to the boyfriend this was like a week into the relationship. I downed a bottle of champagne and we went to town....lol Of course the next day he asked me to marry him...I was married to him for 10 years...lol (That is probably why I don't drink anymore..hehehehe

We were always trying new things it took him 5 years to ask me if I would use a toy on him. When I was like okay he was kicking himself in the Ass for not asking sooner. (Maybe I should of turned him down on this one....lol) Now he is living with his boyfriend.

I did the whole pee thing not really into that but he was so I would do it.

I am a total freak!!!

I say just ask your girl. If she is a little hesitant maybe watch some porn with what you want and show her how turned on you are by it. I feel if she really likes you there is nothing she wouldn't try. Just my Quote

Honestly I was way boring in bed lol before flirt. I never really tryed anything. I was so innocent. After one boyfriend saying some really mean things to me, I was set on finding out how to be good in bed (age 20) got a vibe and dildo and some books. I would say if your having this problem with a gf, I would be nice but have a talk with her and be real. Take her to a cool sex store and tell her you will buy she some toys a book, some cute sexy clothes. Maybe if she hears clothes she will be down. If she says no I would start being mean lol. Im really stubborn and sometimes I need someone to really get it in my head otherwise I dont listen. And honestly no one wants a boring person in bed. Ive after the age of 20 had some boring boyfriends a goddness yuckie lol. Hope that helps Quote

Start with compliments
Use something SMALL and take time
Lots of lube
Get her drunk
Let her ben you over and use Shaq Attack Strap-on on you 1st
Some people like Vanilla


Totally agree to start out with anal, GET HER DRUNK lol Quote

For me and Matt, it was all about being honest. Before him, I would try to suggest "kinkier" things to boyfriends and most looked at me like I was insane. Matt is truly the first guy that not only digs my sexuality- but gets off on it. Our first anal session was a bit rough going b/c well, "tight-ass" would be an accurate description of me, LOL- but we did a bit of research and learned that sesame oil works WONDERS for anal lubing, and Hurricane gel (same stuff you use on baby's teeth) would numb the area a bit. We tried it. Um yeah....needless to say- we're anal FREAKS now and sometimes dont even need the lube b/c my pussy DRIPS from having such intense orgasms, he just slides his fingers inside, swipes 'em on my crack and away we go, lol...

We also dabbled in swinging- we've played with 3 couples and had one really good experience- but the drama from it got to be too much for us and we decided it wasn't as hot as we thought it would be.

It's all about trust, and being open- if you can't be real with the person you're naked with- something's definetely missing. He asked me if I would ever use a strap-on with him and I said sure- I absolutely love railing him b/c it turns him on sooo much- then he usually goes apeshit on me and we have a rough, "I'm gonna rip you a new one" session- and for me- the rougher the better! I like being choked, and that takes total trust- and it gets me off that he can see how much I love it, and trust that he won't go too far. We understand each other- and nothing is too wild or taboo.

Sex is supposed to be fun, and crazy, and loving, and hot and everything that makes the two people having it be able to lay back afterwards and go "Damn, baby, we're porn stars." After 2 plus years with Matt, I can testify to the fact that when you have 100% trust in the person you make love with, it makes the sex that much better! Quote

or work up to it slowly with small toys at first AFTER discussing it with her first so she can try it out herself solo to see if she is keen to try,

then use fingers with lube to open her rectal passage to make it easier to enter properly, No point just going straight in with an erect dick, and for the first few times let her be the 1 to control the movements thus making her more comfortable and give you feedback on what she prefers such as position, depth of stroke, tempo etc.


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My question is -- I am intrested in trying stuff with waxes and warm oils -- how would I go about asking a partner if she is willing to participate in my experimentation ? and whats the best way to get into the wax stuff - i mean will normal candles be alrightr or are special ones needed that have low melting temperature so not to burn flesh. Quote

HAHA diddy brace yourself I'm getting rdy to write a novel. I love talking about sex and sharing details (one of the many perks of this job) I can talk about my sex life / experiences and not have people be like why would you share that?

Ok so the first time I had sex, I was 19. Had no idea what I was doing have to say I've gotten MUCH better lol
First time I had anal.. there wasn't any real prep there which...hurt to say the least, I was 19 at my parents house (funny story...maybe I should post that in my blog?). My boyfriend basically was like hey would you be up for anal me being new to sex was like hell yea, first time i didn't like it. It took alot of convincing for me to do it the second time. After the second time I found I loved it. It's gotta be the real thing toys don't cut it.

Advice for getting your girl to do anal. LUBE LUBE LUBE spit doesn't work!! If you want to do it invest in a nice lube. They make lubes specifically for anal, Ive never tried any so one of the other girls will have to step in and tell you guys how those compare to regular lubes. I use swiss navy it comes in a bunch of flavors too, and tastes like the flavor not lube!! (bought it in a porn store) love it. Its water based so its easy clean up, and you won't feel sticky afterwards. Oh also it doesn't break down fast like some of the other lubes I've used.

Ok so now that you guys know you have to use lube no ifs ands or (no pun intended) buts about it lol. Lets talk about getting her in the mood. If shes never done it before don't push her lol. I would suggest while your eating her out taking a finger and rubbing it on here opening back there. As long as she doesn't pull away and ask what the hell do you think your doing its ok. If shes good with the rubbing over time stick a little bit of your finger in, just to the first or second knuckle, again if she doesn't pull away asking what the hell your doing keep going. Stick your finger in all the way, go slow tho. From here its up to you if you want to go in and out or do the "cum hither". Moving in and out if your not going at the right pace or shes new to the whole thing, it can be painful for her. If you want to be able to stick it in her ass with out it being ...well..a pain in her ass you have to listen to what she says. Even though you really want to just flip her over stick it in and go to town. If shes not a fan of it b/c your not doing what feels go to her, your throwing your future anal sex life out the window. The "cum hither" would be easier to do if your eating her out less movement, this will also let her focus more on the sensation of it more so than trying to keep relaxed and focusing on climaxing. The secret of the cum hither lol very simple really. You know how you signal for someone to come over to you with your pointer finger? do that. This works for when your fingering your girl to. Hits perfect on he g-spot. ...what else what else what else? From your finger you would be able to use a toy on her at a later date no use rushing it right? get a thin toy, prob an inch or so in diameter, if it vibes thats good, it will help her relax as your moving it in and out. Then your going to want to work up to one slightly smaller than you. Then you can go for the real thing.

This is key for penetration ANGLE ANGLE ANGLE. You cant have her just climb on top of you and slide it in her first time. First off in being on top its harder to relax your muscles back there, thus making harder for you to go in thus making it no fun. There are two positions that are good for beginners first doggy, your able to hold her hips and go to town ( fyi I've found the faster you go = less pain, the slower = more pain) plus this gives her the chance to bury her face in the pillow and scream thinking why did i agree to this jk. . Second pos. have her lay down on her back and push her knees up into her chest, this will open up that area for you and allow her to push against your legs with her hands to let you know if your hurting her, or going to fast. As far as exact entry angle, your going to have to play around with that one, or man up and talk to a buddy of yours who's done it and ask him lol. To re-cap. LOTS of LUBE, get in the right ANGLE, talk it out.
AND just for you girls relax your ass!!!

First threesome. I was 22. It was just one of those things that happened I was bi curious at the time, my boyfriend said hey there's this girl at work I've been talking to she really likes you would you ever want to do anything with a girl? Me being me was like hell yea so that was the end of that one.
ADVICE only do a threesome if both sides are 100% confident that your relationship will make it through it. I've seen idk how many relationships fall apart b/c of this. Set up rules. kissing is ok tongue is not ect ect. Main thing to keep in mind as a guy, don't neglect your girl / fiance/ wife. That I have to say is one of te biggest mistakes. Also if your girl is the jealous type I would suggest opting out of this one. The normal saying about threesomes is someone always feels left out. If done right this won't happen =) One of my fav. things about threesomes is when the girl is bent over doggy eating me out and my boyfriend is doing her doggy. Idk why but I love it. Before my whole threesome days I would look at a girl and be more reserved as to what I thought about her. Now I'm like I'd fuck her. So yea lol

Peeing....closest I've ever come to it, is shower with my boyfriend and the "waters warm and he couldn't hold it". He thinks its the funniest thing, I on the other hand hate it. So no advice for you guys there.

Bondage, I love being pinned down and everything else, so being tied up came naturally. Just don't tie anything to tight, there's nothing worse than having to stop cause you can't feel your hands or feet.

Role playing, I can make a costume out of a mash up of clothes that I have, you don't have to have your girl go out and buy something that shes only going to wear in the bedroom once or twice.For example, I have a black pvc corset top, pair that with a pair of fishnets, a garter and some heels and you got yourself a show =). I will dress up for my boyfriend every so often. If he really wants to see me in something he will pick out things for me to wear and lay it out on the bed so when I walk in our room that's the first thing I see and get the hint without him hounding me =) The thing that makes me do it, I feel sexy dressed up in something I normally wouldn't wear, and I love seeing his reaction to it

For me something that would make me step out of my comfort zone is stripping / stripteasing. I'm not a dancer never have been prob never will be. Any of you models that want to teach me lol I'd be more than willing to take notes as long as I get to touch too

hope this posts one the first attempt *crosses fingers*

Oh also, the things I've typed in my post, are things that have worked for me they are not sure fire things. Quote

My question is -- I am interested in trying stuff with waxes and warm oils -- how would I go about asking a partner if she is willing to participate in my experimentation ? and whats the best way to get into the wax stuff - i mean will normal candles be alright or are special ones needed that have low melting temperature so not to burn flesh.



First time with wax lol my b/f lit candles and started with foreplay and then was like hey... wanna try it. I hurt cause it was a reg. candle, not the ones that are made for that. Those ones are awesome!!! the wax gets a little warmer than body temp. plus the one I have after its put on the skin you can rub it in making for a killer back rub.
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i'll start... so i've been wanting to get my girl to do anal. how do i bring it up or ask her?


Well, gdiddy, just hooow vanilla is your GF? If she is too vanilla and you ask her about trying it, she may say "def no". When you are hot and heavy making out w/her, you def want to "test the waters" by letting your fingers wander from fondling her pussy back to the perineal area then swirl your finger (wet finger) around her asshole. Before you start your fingers wandering, make sure you are giving her some hot kisses on her lips, then when your fingers have worked their way around her asshole, start to lick and suck on her nipples. This helps get her really hot and turned on and helps the ass open up. With all the nerves around the asshole, there's a lot to be stimulated! (I've had some of my best orgasms while having anal sex!) Another way to stimulate that area is while you are giving her oral sex (preferably from behind), just let your tongue slowly run up the perineal area and around her asshole...this gets me, personally, very hot and ready for anal.

When it comes to penetration, NEVER EVER go in dry. I much prefer a hot cock to a finger any day...feels sooo much better. Once again, tease her ass w/your hot cock (lubed) and when she starts to respond, ever so gently start to ease it in, a little at a time...don't force it, or she'll jump off the bed in a heartbeat! The more relaxed you can keep her (carressing her breasts or ass) the faster her ass will open up.

It's all about patience and respect for your partner. Especially the first time! Quote

what a great start to this thread!! hopefully some more models will chime in and any other members with questions!!!! Quote

wanted to bump this one up for people that hadn't seen it Quote

anyone got tips on how to get a girl to swallow? Quote

Diddy, think Magic losing against the Lakers Quote

A clean diet helps the guy's jizz taste better. Lay off the red meat and eat more fruits.....red meat just make the jizz taste so bad.

But honestly the force of some guys' cum just hits the back of my mouth and I gag, especially when the jizz is copious.

I tend to spit, but with the right guy I will swallow.

Why am I even responding to this?


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